Patience... I need to patience!

The purpose of starting this blog was mainly to record our adoption journey and hopefully share it with our daughter someday.

We want our daughter to know that she was wanted, prayed for, and loved even before we met her. We want her to know that we are honored to be her parents and we are very grateful because we were able to fulfill our dreams of completing our family through adoption.

With that said, I really wanted to write a nice entry in our blog today but I guess I will have to do that some other time. Today, I just feel the need to vent a little…

I consider myself an assertive person but I have been caught off guard a little too many times and I am so upset with myself for not responding accordingly…

I hate how some people (some highly educated people included, although intelligence have nothing to do with sensitivity) that take it upon themselves to ask things such as “why don’t you/can’t you get pregnant? why can't you have "your own kid"? or Why don’t you get a surrogate?  

Really? Are you serious?

Adoption is not something families take lightly, it involves lots of soul searching, lots of prayer, lots of research, lots of questions and many discussions with professionals as well as other families who have been through the process.

I have to admit  with those questions I always get caught off guard and find myself offering explanations as if to justify myself. I am so angry right now I could cry.

Adoption is not second best and adoption was definitely our decision! Why would anyone think it’s OK to ask such personal questions? I would never dare to ask anyone such questions! How would they like if I ask… Why did you get pregnant? or Why would you get pregnant again? And offer an alternative such as… you should adopt- there are so many orphans in need of families in the world. Why would you want to bring another kid into this world?  They probably would think I am crossing the line right? Probably kick my butt for it. I just don’t understand how is it any different?

Am I overly sensitive? This has happened several times but for some strange reason it all hit me at once.  All this time I have been more concerned about not hurting anyone’s feelings or being rude when the offended one is me! Not sure if anyone else has been through this and I wish I knew what the right answer would be. I spoke with my Honey about it and we both agreed to answer with adoption is our choice period. 

I am still upset about it, I will survive I know, but I definitely have to practice for when people start making “comments” or “asking questions” when our baby comes home. I know one thing… Mamma Bear will not be so nice and polite!

This is what I want to ask...

This is what sometimes I pray for...